Virtual Love?

Who are more likely to take chances in matters of the heart, men or women?

It’s a question that will be answered very differently by many.  Don’t be fooled into thinking that men don’t feel things the way women do. It’s just that we display our emotions in dramatic fashion…floods of tears being top of the list. This means we care more? Not so.

Men may appear aloof and cold when hurt but that’s a defence mechanism that comes naturally for a male. It’s in their nature, nothing wrong with something that comes naturally.  We sometimes forget that both sexes are made in very different ways. 

Women are a lot more open to taking chances. Even when there is a niggling doubt about a relationship or liaison you are about to begin, we go with it.  We are far more willing to trust the side of that person that is good.  It isn’t always the case that we want to change a man but we are accepting of them…no one’s perfect right?  Usually if you see there is a heart and generosity (and I don’t mean him spending money on you) you feel you have found a firm base on which to start.

Even when a woman has gone through hurt in her life, she will always leave the door open.  Those that say they are done with men are kidding themselves.

When a man’s been hurt, well now we are talking about something completely different.

I have had interesting conversations with men, in particular those who have been through divorces (some more than once) the message is that they have had their fingers burnt emotionally and financially.  Because of this, a meaningful relationship is not in their future plans…or so they say.  Everyone needs that special someone, they or you may not think it now but this all goes back to how we are made and it is a basic human requirement for everyone. 

So what’s the consequence? More women remain single,  good women that men are missing out on and they know it.  So, what would they rather do?

Virtual flirting…that’s what!  Or to be more precise ‘Skype’

Yes people, I know us girls like to chat but this takes on a whole new meaning.  These men are thinking this is easy, have a chat with virtual blonde or brunette on my terms.  No swapping of telephone numbers, no chance of bumping into them on a night out and the only way to speak to them is by firing up the laptop yourself…complete control.  No way of getting hurt again…result!!

Oh fellas!  I’m not knocking it I get it, I understand why. But you are missing out on so much and what’s more so are we.

Some would argue that finding that someone isn’t what will make you complete and I agree with that.  It isn’t, but it is a piece of life’s puzzle that will eventually fit…how would it feel if that were the only missing piece?